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Supporting Behaviour at Home

Below are positive behaviour approaches to use at home. If you require further support please contact the school.


State of Regulation


Potential displayed behaviours

Responsive co-regulation



  • Safe
  • Engaged
  • Steady heart/breathing rate
  • Calm state of arousal
  • Open to social engagement
  • Expressive facial expression
  • Able to process language
  • Engage in thinking to learn
  • Maximise social engagement
  • Fully engage and connect using the face, voice, movement
  • Encourage listening and expressive responses
  • Engage thinking skills to reflect and make connections
  • Introduce gentle challenge through play/activity




  • Agitated
  • Withdrawn
  • Slightly raised heart and breathing rate
  • Signs of agitation, frustration and anxiety
  •  Raised hypervigilance
  • Lack of focus, easily distracted
  • Increased mobilisation
  • Early signs of helplessness or needing to take control
  • Connect through eye contact, facial expressions and movement
  • Express calmness through voice and open facial expression
  • Attune to the mood, intensity and energy of the child
  • Respond by being more animated to attune to agitation, increase intensity to attune to anger, be gentle and delicate to attune to sadness.
  • Respond empathically, validate feelings
  • Use calming, soothing and regulatory activities




/highly anxious 

  •  Mobilised
  • High levels of arousal or distress
  • Hyper vigilant
  • Difficulty listening and focusing
  • Mobilised, fidgeting, jumping, running, climbing, etc.
  • Raised voice, decreased expressivity
  • Threatening or oppositional behaviour
  • Reduce social demands but remain present
  • Provide individual attention
  • Let them know you are able to ‘hold’ their dysregulation by remaining regulated
  • Convey your calm and regulated state by being confident and contained, using quiet, calm sounds and tones which are expressive and confident.
  • Reduce language, give short, clear directions. Avoid questions and choices
  • Use a predictable routine
  • Reduce sensory input, lights, noise. Use sensory soothing